What is going on in a life that starts each day with a round of negative thoughts? What goes on in a similar life that begins with positive thoughts?
Some people live every day with thoughts like this: “I can’t stand this, it’s not fair, life is crap, it sucks to be me, I’m so fat, I’m dumb, by boss is a jerk, I never…, Why do I always…? Why can’t I ever…?”
Even writing the words makes me feel heavy, thick, and grey inside. It all becomes pretty pointless. Negativity is a braking system, designed to keep you slow, to keep you from moving forward in life. It has its benefits, though.
Negativity keeps you safe. Nothing changes. You don’t have to learn anything. When things go wrong or disappointment looms, you can feel “right” and even smug about that rightness. You can stay loyal to a mother or father who taught you those thoughts, or you can justify why you have such a limited life.
Negativity is a mindset, sort of like clothing. If you spend each day in dirty, raggedy clothes, you will probably feel, well, dirty and raggedy. Granted, if you’ve had a incredibly fun and energetic day rock climbing or mining for gold, you’ll probably reflect that in the way your clothes look. You would also shower and change before the family reunion or your gala in town. You would CHANGE.
Negativity is only a mindset. It is not a part of the core self, like sexuality or whether you have an operatic voice. It is a limiting series of habits that developed over time.
I had a discussion about finding happiness with a young woman today who said,
“Negative thoughts deflect the truth.”
In simply saying that, she opened a door for light to shine in. Truth is light. Truth about a situation gives freedom of choice, freedom to truly feel the many possible feelings of a situation or moment. Truth allows for learning.
Learning allows for growth. Yes, positive thinking allows the possibility of unsure footing because the unknown is always unstable. It’s far more exciting, though.
How to stop negative thinking? Start positive thinking! Just start. If your day starts with “ugh…that’s an ugly face in the mirror!” Immediately stop and apologize to yourself. Then say something positive: “Nice eyes you have today!” or “today is a day to find beauty!
Does this sound “rinky-dink”? Many think positive people are all “Pollyanna,” but look carefully at those who are leaders, who succeed in their lives at whatever level. You will find people who habitually use hopeful, positive thinking as the foundation of those lives.
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